I have a hard time with New Year’s resolutions.
There is one part of me that loves the idea of reflecting upon the year passed and setting goals and resolutions for the upcoming year. It’s all very action plan like – and I like plans and checklists and lists in general. I know, shocking.
There is another part of me that doesn’t love the idea of New Year’s resolutions and goals. Often, what happens at the end of the year is that I’m overcome with a huge list of should-have-dones which then results in an overly ambitious list of resolutions for the new year, often made on New Year’s Eve (ahem) and that haven’t been set intentionally. Resolutions feel like they are set in stone (even if just in my head) and don’t offer enough flexibility to account for a myriad of circumstances that may arise during the year (like a little torn ligament).
For 2012, I decided to set four surf-related goals. Seemed simple enough but who knew that I would be out of the water for over a year (and counting), that I would rediscover my love for running, and that yoga would be what I need right now. Priorities and life circumstances shifted and so did the focus of my year.
2012 = Acceptance
That’s the word that comes to mind when I think back on 2012. Acceptance often has a negative connotation but I don’t mean Acceptance as in just passively accepting what’s been handed to me. I mean, accepting the things that came my way and learning from those experiences – growing from those experiences.
For someone who can be a perfectionist and who likes things to go as planned, it was a big deal to just stop and pause before acting (most of the time). It was a big deal that I didn’t completely fall apart before, during and after my knee surgery and that I was OK with the fact that recovery took much longer than I expected. It was a big deal to begin to set more purposeful intentions for my actions and to #makeitcount. It was a big deal to step back and let my kids struggle, grow and find their own identities.
2013 = Intention
I’m taking a page from my friend Lindsay’s book – to do something about one thing this year and to pick one word to focus on.
My word is Intention.
That’s what I want my year to focus on – connecting my head and my heart.
- Setting a goal and purpose focused on the here and now, the present
- Doing things for a reason and not just for the sake of doing them
- Creating from my heart and the soul, tapping into my passions, loves and interests
- Reflecting my heart’s desire
- Being mindful and conscientious in my actions and thoughts and in how I nourish my body
- Connecting every day actions with my larger vision and goals
Of course, I still have a long list of goals and dreams for the year and I will be pursuing them all with intention.
What’s your word for 2013? Do you set New Year’s resolutions?
Happy New Year!
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