I would always forget. The middle of June would roll around and I would try to make plans with friends for the weekend. “I can’t. I’m heading home for Father’s Day.”
Right. Father’s Day.
When I think about my father, my mind zeroes in one of a few specific memories – his salt and pepper hair, the way he laughed when watching Wylie E. Coyote during Saturday morning cartoons, the slight cling of cigarette smoke in his sweater, how he walked up the stairs from the basement and joined us at the dinner table after work, his round belly, and how he loved his job and his patients.
While we only shared eight short years together, I know that there are many more memories. Yet, when I think about my father, I go back to these same images over and over – a visceral amalgamation of scent, sight, and sound. In the years since my Father passed, I haven’t wanted to plunge below the surface. I was scared it would hurt too much and I wasn’t sure what I would find if I did dive a little deeper.
For 22 years after my father passed, I didn’t really think about Father’s Day. I glossed over it like it was just another second or third tier holiday like Flag Day. No offense to Flag Day of course. It just doesn’t have the same cache as Christmas or the 4th of July.
Father’s Day began to take on a new meaning once we started our own family seven years ago. Every day, I watch as my sons’ relationship with their dad grows. There was something to celebrate again.
Having kids has given me the courage to unearth some of the stories about my own father that I’ve hidden away. I want my children to know my dad even though they will never know him. Slowly, I have started to share memories and pictures with my two boys. While I am bracing myself for the day they do start asking questions, I’m not scared of answering them anymore.
More than anything, I want to share these memories with my kids because I know that my boys would make my dad smile. That Jasper carries his name as a middle name. That Everett is as stubborn as stubborn can be, just like he could be at times. That his compassion seeps through in Jasper’s actions and the way that he care for his friends, family and brother. That Everett is as smart as a whip. That Jasper was gifted with his artistic genes. I see flickers of him in my children more and more.
I remember Father’s Day now.
What makes your father smile?
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I was selected for this opportunity as a member of Clever Girls Collective and the content and opinions expressed here are all my own.
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