A Riff on Friday Round-Up

Umm, can I just say something? You all are AMAZING. Thank you so much for all of your comments. Ironic, I know. I should have put a disclaimer on my post or something.

However, I’m glad to know that I’m not the only one who suffers from Blogger’s Guilt from time to time. I didn’t mean to write that post to garner sympathy. I just needed to get it off my chest and in doing so, and with your incredibly supportive words, I think that it’s helping me let go of the guilt.

I’ve realized that it’s not just blogging and responding to blog comments that has me feeling guilty. It’s really an overall case of social media exhaustion. I love social media more than I ever expected but I can’t be connected 24/7. It’s impossible yet I feel guilty about that. MizFitOnline spoke to this really well and share tips on how she manages. Along with the blog comments, I’m learning to let go of this guilt too.

Much of my guilt arises from the expectations that I place on myself, not necessarily what I think others expect of me although I’m sure that’s part of it. The one place where my expectations manifest themselves is my to do list. I admit that I like to be “busy” but is all that busy-ness good? Ilene wrote a great post that has made me think more about what’s an essential to-do and what’s not essential.

My to do lists are my way of trying to gain some semblance of control over my life. It’s one way I try to achieve perfection. But, I can get so caught up in my pursuit of perfection that I forget to pay attention to what I really need, what my soul really needs. I adored this post from Lindsay about how she doesn’t do perfection.

So, I’m committing to taking at least 10 minutes a day for myself – not for something like exercise or cooking but truly for myself. To read, mediate (I really wish that I could mediate sometimes), knit, connecting with friends, relax – things that I don’t do enough of right now, things that will make my soul feel better.

I’m starting today.

Will you take 10 minutes for yourself?


  1. says

    You blogging guilt really hit me this week. It’s one of the many things that has had me in a “guilt” since I started blogging. It is nice to know that I’m not alone!

    It’s so sad that we ALL need a reminder to take 10 minutes for ourselves. I preach it to my patients and clients. But do I do it for myself? Not that much. I’m going to try my hardest to start today. Until then I’ll be pluggin’ along at my to-to lists. Happy Friday!
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  2. says

    That’s great to take at least 10 minutes for YOU! I also enjoyed MizFit’s media exhaustion post and think it’s valuable to think about. Usually my mornings are “me time,” when I can take my time waking up, watch a little news, sip my tea, catch up on online reading if I so choose. Pre-bedtime is also tea-time and often reading to unwind. Helps me fall asleep!
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  3. Amber @ ExSoyCise says

    I feel the same way at times. It’s so hard to keep up with every social media platform and maintain my sanity and sometimes I feel like no matter how hard I try it’s not enough! But I do love it and its getting easier every day. Kudos to you for taking time to yourself!
    I love the new blog design, very beautify!

  4. Amber @ ExSoyCise says

    I feel the same way at times. It’s so hard to keep up with every social media platform and maintain my sanity and sometimes I feel like no matter how hard I try it’s not enough! But I do love it and its getting easier every day. Kudos to you for taking time to yourself!
    I love the new blog design, very beautiful!

  5. says

    I have taken several month’s off. I felt guilty at first, but for me personally, I had to put my family first and, I want quality stories on my site; I just don’t feel inspired these days. I am sure I will again, but not going to force it. I am so glad everyone is addressing this issue. It is not the end of the world if we give ourselves a break, the readers who love you will always be there for you.
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    • admin says

      Thanks Lisa for this. I completely agree – I want quality on my site and not feel forced to write just because it’s Wednesday and I’m supposed to post today. I think that’s definitely been part of what I’ve been struggling with. I think that you’re right not to force it.

  6. says

    I’m with Miz…shoot for 30 but I tell you that and need to do it myself. I was meditating for a while there and really like it. There is something to having the discipline just to force yourself to spend the time.

    You deserve it!
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  7. says

    I’m with Carla. I need at least 60 minutes (beyond my exercise time; since I train in a busy gym, with clients all around me, work out time doesn’t always feel like ME time).
    I knit, read, bake and go for walks. All things that energize and fuel me. (and keep me from killing people; I jest, mostly)
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  8. says

    Social media is one of those professions/hobbies/whatever where the expectations can be blurry because it is always available. Thanks to smart phones, you don’t ever really “turn off” social media. I try to establish boundaries by ignoring my phone for certain hours of the day so I can spend quality time with my family. A little “me” time wouldn’t hurt either, although sometimes I tend to confuse that as being the same as “social media” time.
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    • admin says

      I think that I tend to have the same confusion – social media/blogging time = me time when it’s not really. I really wanted to try to focus on doing something that I tend to push to the side that’s why I didn’t include working out because I will do that no matter what.

  9. says

    I need to start taking time for myself. I am finding that I literally don’t sit down all day (unless I’m bf’ing or playing with AJ) and I am exhausted and cranky by the evening. It’s so hard – when they are both napping I feel SO obligated to clean, do laundry, catch up on blog stuff, etc. You are right – we all need to start taking a chunk of time out for ourselves.
    Hope you and the boys have a wonderful weekend!
    PS. Are you going to the NYCM expo at all?
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  10. says

    My new schedule has pushed me to make some difficult choices with time. I love social media and my blog has become a very important part of my life, but there is much less twitter activity for me these days etc. at least for now. I love the idea of ten minutes for me. Even if its just 10 minutes of sleep! I can always use some. As always a great round up! And do not feel compelled to reply to this comment. Got that? :-)
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  11. says

    I had to take a week off for a family situation (funeral) and loved every minute of it. Social media tends to feel like noise to me–like I’m stuck at a busy party and everyone’s yelling and I can’t say hi to everyone or talk to them for more than five seconds.
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    • admin says

      That’s a great way to describe social media – lots of people yelling and not enough time to really connect with people. I’m so sorry for your loss but glad that you had time to disconnect a bit.


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